Staying connected with your college-aged student
Sending a student off to college for the first time is never an easy thing to do. In the next few years, your college student will grow and change in large part based on personal interactions and the environment in which he or she is living. You are encouraged to stay connected with your son or daughter, and relax and enjoy witnessing their personal and intellectual growth. Should you have concerns about your son or daughter, you are invited to call the Counseling Center to discuss how you might handle a particular situation. You may contact us at 201.559.3587 or 201.559.3503.
As the parent of a college-age student, you already know that the college experience can be both an exciting and challenging time. There are many things to think about when it comes to the college years – doing well academically, making friends, managing finances, staying safe, and planning for the future.
With all these opportunities and challenges, it is important to also think about their emotional health. The Jed Foundation offers resources to help you understand them. The Jed Foundation’s mission is to promote emotional health and prevent suicide among college and university students.
"How to Discuss the Risks of College Drinking" is a publication that you are encouraged to read. Staying connected includes having discussions on risk reduction and appropriate choices. It is important to talk with your student about his/her specific concerns. Use your conversations to strengthen your connections with them. Let them know that it’s okay to talk about sensitive and emotional subjects, and that it’s fine to disagree and be upset. You can always come back and continue the discussion later with no damage done. Learn to be an active listener and let them finish their sentences without interruptions or quick solutions to their problems. Please remember to present your views in non-critical ways in order to help them discover answers to life’s challenges.